what the body says

Tony Esolen, writing in the FPR comment section:

What the TFP men do not say, and perhaps what they should say, and might even approve of saying, is that the whole sexual revolution has been a disaster. It has been especially disastrous for those portions of the population that the deracinated meritocrats do not live nearby. I think, finally, that it is time to say, openly, that what the body “says” in sexual intercourse is, “I give myself to you totally, and not only for this moment, but for all my time on earth, because what we are now doing is what makes for the future generations,” in other words, the baby-making thing. That is what the body says. Oh, the people involved in the act may not be saying it; I know this too well. But even then, on some level, they have to pretend to be saying it. They have to pretend to be in the throes of a passion that feints towards the everlasting. It is, of course, a lie.

So, in order to protect the right to continue lying to one another and to ourselves, to continue to pretend that the baby-making act does not make babies (or does so only in cases of terrible accidents), we have to accept all of the community-destroying consequences of the sexual revolution. I am looking at some of those consequences right now, out my front window: the apartments full of transient families, children born out of wedlock, moral and physical chaos, and the inevitable violence. Call it living downstream from the elites and their well-cushioned sexual amoralism.

If the sexual revolution was so wonderful, where — I am asking — are the rewards of it, in families that are stronger than ever, coherent communities, children well-adjusted and loved, happier marriages, less disease, less abortion, greater love and admiration of each sex for the other, a sweeter and more human culture — where is this?

Several of Esolen's articles can be found here.